The Gardening Is Beginning

9 May 011

Hello Everyone,  I know some of you might be a little curious about what happened to the garden I was planning for the church.  First,  let me show you some pictures of the spring flowers that bloomed after our initial planting.  Even though it took Spring longer to get her than expected.  I was totally excited to see them.  Then the evil of all landscaping appeared a few clusters of weeds.

I saw a few areas through the spring planting plan that will receive additional flowers in the fall this year.  I love for flowers to be bountiful, like the gardens of Holland, Versailles and Biltmore.  I’ll more than likely just venture out there myself to take care of these matters.  The unnecessary debate I have to have with the elders of the church weigh me down immensely.  Being that I’m a respectable person, I tend to entertain them more than I should and have to double back to do more work so they “feel” like things are going their way… smh

So, last week the pastor called me and left a message.  I knew what it was about being that the weather here in Detroit had finally snapped allowing a window for us to handle the prep work needed to get the garden going.  The announcement was made for any members willing to lend a hand at digging the grounds up for the garden to come out and offer 2 hours of service Tuesday and Wednesday.  I asked my mom to come with me to allow me to vent to someone if I needed.

My plan includes 3 beds, 2 walls of shrubbery, 1 raised bed, a paved walkway (in the near future) and over 25 specimen of plants.  With the new job and all, this will just be another thing I keep my hands involved in.  My goal when I walked away from my former life was to become a more active member in the church.  That’s exactly what I’m going to do.  Plan in hand and vision in my mind, I designated the areas that needed to be turned over and we got to work.  With only a small delegation of people to show up this is going to take a lot longer than I thought.  We also decided right on the spot that we’ll announce some Saturday planting days to allow more members to come out and participate.  I have a strange feeling I’ll be here more often than the rest as gardening brings me a surreal peace and sense of calm.  I often walk out into my mother’s yard just to look at all the things I have planted of the years, especially the rose bushes.  Here are just a few pictures from the day and the work we accomplished.

Things are underway on the Herbert B. Robinson, Sr. Memorial Garden at True Love Baptist Church.  I’m happy to tell you that I am still with the project and looking forward to bringing you more updates as the flowers go into the ground and the stems, buds and leaves begin to bloom.  Put a smile on your face ~ it might bring you a little joy to pass on to someone else.  :)

All Gone & In Love

18 Apr

Well, I held on as long as I could.  It wasn’t the definition of me but it was a big part of me.  I nurtured, treated and preserved it as long as I could.  What am I talking about?  THIS HAIR!!! On April 2, 2013, I had all the heat damaged hair cut from my head.  I couldn’t take the 2 totally different textures in my hair anymore.  I had weened off of Massa (KM 222 pressing comb), using the best products for my hair and reduced the heat to just the blow dryer on a lower setting after I cleansed my hair.  The heat damaged portion would lay there limp of life and in the short form of things just be in the way.  My hair would curl from root to shaft, only to stop at those stringy ends like “Hold Up!”  I had adopted the old fashion foam rollers as my go to styler and got the products to achieve a little longevity but I couldn’t maintain because the ends needed more than I was willing to give them.  So in a moment of haste I got a weave.  I was tired of rolling, my arms being tired and too sleepy to even think about what I needed to do to my hair.  In a month period I got the answer I was looking for and a host of new looks.

After blowing it out for the Easter Holiday & literally running into a natural hair stylist that talked me into a consultation and Carol’s Daughters products.  I decided to get rid of those ends and enjoy the totality of being Au Natural.  Yes, I was waiting until some time had pass before I did the Big Chop to my hair.  But after accessing the new work environment I was in (which embraced my journey with open arms) and a transition period too long with fast hair growth.  My Big Chop looked more like a TWA (teeny weenie afro) which was cool and probably better.  I might have enjoyed that barber freedom too much and never let the hair go ahead and grow.

I’m totally in love with my hair now.  I’ve turned my back on my trusty 3 hair dryers.  Opting for air-dried hair now.  I’ll tell you all in a later post about the new products I’m using and the results they’re giving me.  The biggest surprise is the amount of attention I’m receiving from the hair.  Even though, I’m sure this face is still doing it’s fair share of reeling them in, Lol!!! I enjoy jumping in the shower without a care about my hair getting wet or sans the shower cap.  I’m not going to tell that natural hair is better or the way you should go.  All I can say is I’m loving my new-found freedom and embracing this little cotton ball head of hair.  I know very soon I’m gonna hafta (yes I did say hafta) shut the natural curl girl down so I can retain some of the length through NO/LOW manipulation.  But I’ll be alright.  Trust me when I tell you I’m smiling. :D

Beautifully Understood: Jackie Robinson

18 Apr

The weather in the Detroit area almost refused to change with the season.  I’ve seen more snowflakes from my window at work than I care to witness.  Temps fluctuating from 30s to 70s within hours of each other.  I can’t figure out if I can wear my spring clothes and keep a fur coat on stand by some days.  Last year I kept saying “I was robbed because we didn’t have a normal winter and I didn’t get to wear all my coats.”  Well wear I did.  Every one of them a couple of times.  I enjoyed it but keep that very quiet because the rest of the region is pissed with the weather.  In the meantime, my position at work almost got the best of me and I almost walked away due to a scheduling issue.  But in the wake of the flurry of impulsive decision-making more conscious calculated thought prevailed.  True I didn’t want to work those strange hours and I was giving up some of the freedom that I had become accustomed to in the prior year.  Everybody telling me in that moment don’t do it, stick with it and it’ll get better.  But this job was what I prayed for something that would allow me to observe; if what I want - is what I want.  In the spirit of spring in the shadow of the wonderful movie 42.  I felt this quote described what I was feeling at the time.

“Baseball  is like a poker game. Nobody wants to quit when he’s losing; nobody wants you to  quit when you’re ahead.”
Jackie Robinson

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Enjoy the hints of Spring whenever you can wherever you are in the world.  Don’t quit just keep on smiling & planning your next move in the meantime. :)

Beautifully Misunderstood: Shaka Senghor

25 Mar The Release

Shaka SenghorBeautifully Misunderstood stopped Shaka Senghor of Drop A Gem Publishing for the “Happiness Quest” inquiry. Mr. Senghor is a writer, mentor, and motivational speaker whose inspiring story of redemption has captured the hearts and minds of young adults across the nation. During a 19 year prison stay, Senghor discovered his love for writing.  In total six books have been written, including a NEW memoir about his life, Writing My Wrongs.  He is the “King Pen” behind the detective series Crack: Volume 1 and  2, and a book of his writings entitled Live in Peace: A Youth Guide to Turning Hurt into Hope, a companion piece to his mentoring program.  Shaka has worked with youth at the Detroit Job Corps and many area high schools; has lectured at the University of Wisconsin–Platteville, the University of Michigan, Fordham University, Wayne State University, Marygrove College, and Pace University; and is an invited guest on local radio and television programs.  Most recently, he has been working with the MIT Media Lab on a project to strengthen Detroit through a creative initiative.  Now,  I met him out here in cyberspace and had the opportunity to get to know him personally and build a genuine friendship.  He calls me his “Business Partner.”  I won’t deny that.  After taking an active role in promoting his literary works through several groups and reading the books – my respect for him, what he’s doing, where he had been and more importantly where he wants to go, grew.  Beautifully Misunderstood asked him the same questions we ask everyone and he had not problem in answering.Writing My Wrongs

Who inspired/encouraged your movements/change?  My greatest inspiration for changing my life is my father James White.  He is the epitome of a father and a great man.  He encouraged me to always maximize my potential and to never give up in life.  He was by my side during my lowest points and encouraged me along the way.

What risk (if any) did you take to follow your happiness?  The risk I took to follow my happiness was trying a new route and understanding that the road would be harder to travel, because I had to pave it as I went along. The easiest thing would have been to go back to my old ways, but instead I risk it all by embracing a new way and starting a new path.

When did you discover what would make you happy?  I think I am still discovering what makes me happy on a very personal level.  It is part of learning myself in different situations.  Being in prison most of the things I learned about myself was theoretical and in my head, but now that I am free I am learning more about what makes me happy and what makes me the man I am today. I know succeeding and accomplishing my goals are a part of it, but waking up to the smile of my son Sekou is a part of it in a different way.  I can honestly say I am growing into my happiness. (Sidebar: One of the cutest and sweetest little guys I’ve encountered lately.)

How long did it take you to embrace the move toward happiness?  It took a very long time for me to embrace the move toward happiness.  Prison isn’t an environment where happiness is celebrated or embraced.  I had to do a lot of soul-searching and cleansing internally and externally.  I had to get rid of all my negative and toxic thoughts and then get rid of the negative and toxic people in my life. It was a process because some things are habitual including the company we keep. However, I love that I am still growing into my happiness and embracing the positive side of life and all it has to offer.

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Where would you be had you NOT followed your happiness?  If I hadn’t embraced my happiness and the things I now believe in, I am sure I would be just another statistic caught up in the same destructive cycle. The thing is I can’t imagine being trapped in that sick twisted world anymore.  I am happy my spirit of determination keeps me progressing toward the positive light.  It’s a great feeling to be in control of my destiny instead of having my destiny controlled by someone else.

Sum up your journey in one sentence….  Obstacles can be overcome and broken spirits can be mended, it’s all a matter of having the will and determination to do it.

Beautifully Misunderstood shined the spotlight on Shaka for his steadfast and genuine transition from being a part of the problem to making strides toward finding solutions and becoming an impactful factor in the community.  There’s always so much focus on the negativity in the city that we miss real turn around stories such as this.  Detroiters and people across the globe have embraced his literature and programs that he has concentrated his energy into.  He has by far become one of the people I truly enjoy conversing with even if all we do is laugh.  I admire him for taking a chance and creating a life for himself, a legacy for his family and most importantly dispelling the idea that he would return to the life he emerged from.  That summary of his journey will probably stay with me for the rest of my life.. Might even make it up there to be one of my all-time favorite quotes.  To learn more about Mr. Senghor go to his website http://www.shakasenghor.com/.  Here you can make contact for speaking engagements, locate events and most importantly purchase books and I must say (unbiased in any way) that “Writing My Wrongs” was a real page turner.

As always keep dreaming, moving in the path of your HAPPINESS and :) .

Beautifully Understood: Denzel Washington

13 Mar beers

I made a commitment to completely cut out drinking and anything that might hamper me from getting my mind and body together.  An the floodgates of have of goodness have opened upon me spiritually and financially ~ Denzel Washington

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I know alot of us are gearing up for the high holiday St.Patrick’s Day. (especially me with this 1/8 cup of Irish in my blood) So, party hard but don’t over indulge in the festivities.  Sometimes you have to let go of some things for the REAL things you want to take place in your life.  There are those all too common realities that we sacrifice that contribute to attaining our hearts desire.  You all know I know about sacrificial endeavors in my journey to HAPPINESS.  So I want you all to…  Drink responsibly as you celebrate this glorious annual event.  Smile as always.

Happy St. Patrick’s Day from Beautifully Misunderstood!!!!

Defining Moments

3 Mar

I hope you all enjoyed your Valentine’s Day, Black History Month and whatever else you’ve had going on in my absence.  Let me tell you what I’ve been going through.

Well, I started working/ training as a Social Media Customer Relations Specialist within one of America’s major employer’s in the great city of Detroit.  So, I’ve fixed my sleeping schedule (which has been kind of hard for a nocturnal creature such as myself.)  In an effort to be the optimal candidate during this time.  I’m laying my clothes out at night, packing my lunch and rolling my hair at to save a little time in the morning.  With this change in my life, I feel exhausted by the time I return home after an eight hour work day, and I just crash.  So my window for for writing my post has gotten smaller.  But I’m going to figure that out.  As I am doing with all of my other projects.

So you wanna know what I do at my job tweet, Facebook and discuss situations with individuals inside of 90 automobile forums.  I think you’ll gether who I work for through the picture refuse to say their name.  Oh hell, fugetaboutit….  Ask me if you don’t get it.

As excited as I am about this change in my life professionally and financially, I want to retain my humble attitude which has carried me through the last year.  The thing that had taken over my mind is that I have lived with less why go to the extreme now that I have more.  Or because I have this job.

Saving money and planning for the future have become important to me.  I’m doing the weekly/daily savings challenge, which has taken great discipline.  There’s no need to go crazy.  I’ve learned from my exploration into HAPPINESS.

This is my defining moment.  My opportunity to see if I’ve learned, grown and focused my life more then I had before.  Things are always looking up even when you feel like you’re all the way at the bottom.  As always keep a  :) on your face.  It might help someone else more than it helps you.

Beautifully Understood: Erica Jong

8 Feb

In the spirit of Valentine’s Day and the emotional rollercoaster I’m on right now this one is gonna be short and to the point.   I’m not going to bore/ entertain you with my interpretation of this quote.  Take and digest it the way that I have.  This quote has plagued me for a couple of days now.  Shaking my head as I write this because the words are still playing with me.  Erica Jong said it best.

“Love is everything it’s cracked up to be…. It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for.”

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I have shied away from love out of fear.  Never fought or risked all for it.  More than all of that though, I know what it feels like to be loved the right way.  I’ll admit I miss that feeling but I’m unsure of how I can ever get back to a place I’m familiar with yet been gone away from so long.  If I don’t speak to you before this beautiful upcoming holiday.

Happy Valentine’s Day from Beautifully Misunderstood ;)

 

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